Many people who do not understand the mentality of couple in an open, polly, or swinging relationship would consider these people sex perverts. However we have personally interviewed many people who have taken alternatives to the standard relationship and are convinced that it is the rest of us who may have it all wrong !
The first thing we noticed, is that everyone we spoke to agreed that opening up your relationship will not work for everyone. You must have a very secure relationship in the first place, before you can even consider swinging or another adult lifestyle. You must also be able to communicate with your partner on a very "deep" personal level, which sadly many of us fail to do. The main problem you would encounter on "opening up" your relationship to others is the fatal emotion of Jealousy, once "set in" it can destroy a weak relationship in a flash !! This is why to enter into a non monogamous relationship you must first learn to control jealousy and get to a position where you can BOTH feel 100% comfortable with the idea of sharing your partner with another.
Choosing to open up your relationship will depend largely on you psychological make up and beliefs of course and many couples find a "traditional" relationship works for them just fine. If you are religious for example then you may automatically reject the idea of anything else but monogamy, because of the constraints of your beliefs. In a way society does that to us too, we all tend to just go along with the "norm" and automatically expecting that it is the best, if not the only way to live life and have relationships.
However just as there are many culture and religions throughout the world and they all seem to "work" yet all differ greatly, it would then be a little naive to think that only a "traditional" monogamous relationship could ever work. In fact most, in fact all, of the couples we talked too said opening up their relationships was the best thing they done. Although some did have a few problems and issues to start with, after a little time they both got used to the new way of thinking and relaxed into their new lifestyle.
The reasons for wanting to "swing" or open up your relationship to others are many and each couple has their own.
Mark and Jennifer Ages - 38 & 42
It was my wife who actually bought up the idea of swinging when we were on the Costa del Sol taking our annual holiday. I had known for a while that she was a little bi curious and she suggested maybe we could meet a couple.
I was a little taken back at first, but the idea actually turned me on, as we continued talking about it we both got quite aroused. My wife telling me she wanted to try sex with another woman was a good starter, but then she told me she would like to be fucked by another man too. I was a little uncomfortable with that at first but then the idea started to turn me on too and the fact that i was to be a participant. We studied various ways we could meet with a suitable couple and decided on the Internet as a way of contacting like minded couples.
After a few days we were set to hook up with a couple, same ages as ourselves, although they had had some experience. It was a very nervous first meeting, we almost decided against it, but not wanting to be branded time wasters we arrived at the meeting location. The couple were a lot like us and after less than half an hour we had all relaxed and were chatting like old friends. A few drinks later and we were invited back to their place, where they offered us another drink and the chatting continued. I am going to call the couple Paul and Jill to make it easy, they were a very attractive couple and I could tell that we both considered them our type.
A little time went by and i notice Jill's hand on my wife's leg, genlty rubbing and moving up closer to her crotch, then Paul came and sat with them and started on her other leg, She was offering no resistance! Before i knew it they were both undressing her and Jill started to gently lick her pussy, while paul was licking her nipples and kissing her. She was loving it and i was getting very aroused watching the show. Then Jill beckoned me over and turned her attentions to my cock while Paul carried on with Jennifer. It's was a very erotic affair and we all continued swapping, playing and fucking well into the early hours. Since that time we have met a few couples and have some regular playmates, it has become our way of life really. We enjoy the social side as much as the sex and have found that it has made our own relationship a lot stronger and more fun.
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The first thing we noticed, is that everyone we spoke to agreed that opening up your relationship will not work for everyone. You must have a very secure relationship in the first place, before you can even consider swinging or another adult lifestyle. You must also be able to communicate with your partner on a very "deep" personal level, which sadly many of us fail to do. The main problem you would encounter on "opening up" your relationship to others is the fatal emotion of Jealousy, once "set in" it can destroy a weak relationship in a flash !! This is why to enter into a non monogamous relationship you must first learn to control jealousy and get to a position where you can BOTH feel 100% comfortable with the idea of sharing your partner with another.
Choosing to open up your relationship will depend largely on you psychological make up and beliefs of course and many couples find a "traditional" relationship works for them just fine. If you are religious for example then you may automatically reject the idea of anything else but monogamy, because of the constraints of your beliefs. In a way society does that to us too, we all tend to just go along with the "norm" and automatically expecting that it is the best, if not the only way to live life and have relationships.
However just as there are many culture and religions throughout the world and they all seem to "work" yet all differ greatly, it would then be a little naive to think that only a "traditional" monogamous relationship could ever work. In fact most, in fact all, of the couples we talked too said opening up their relationships was the best thing they done. Although some did have a few problems and issues to start with, after a little time they both got used to the new way of thinking and relaxed into their new lifestyle.
The reasons for wanting to "swing" or open up your relationship to others are many and each couple has their own.
Mark and Jennifer Ages - 38 & 42
It was my wife who actually bought up the idea of swinging when we were on the Costa del Sol taking our annual holiday. I had known for a while that she was a little bi curious and she suggested maybe we could meet a couple.
I was a little taken back at first, but the idea actually turned me on, as we continued talking about it we both got quite aroused. My wife telling me she wanted to try sex with another woman was a good starter, but then she told me she would like to be fucked by another man too. I was a little uncomfortable with that at first but then the idea started to turn me on too and the fact that i was to be a participant. We studied various ways we could meet with a suitable couple and decided on the Internet as a way of contacting like minded couples.
After a few days we were set to hook up with a couple, same ages as ourselves, although they had had some experience. It was a very nervous first meeting, we almost decided against it, but not wanting to be branded time wasters we arrived at the meeting location. The couple were a lot like us and after less than half an hour we had all relaxed and were chatting like old friends. A few drinks later and we were invited back to their place, where they offered us another drink and the chatting continued. I am going to call the couple Paul and Jill to make it easy, they were a very attractive couple and I could tell that we both considered them our type.
A little time went by and i notice Jill's hand on my wife's leg, genlty rubbing and moving up closer to her crotch, then Paul came and sat with them and started on her other leg, She was offering no resistance! Before i knew it they were both undressing her and Jill started to gently lick her pussy, while paul was licking her nipples and kissing her. She was loving it and i was getting very aroused watching the show. Then Jill beckoned me over and turned her attentions to my cock while Paul carried on with Jennifer. It's was a very erotic affair and we all continued swapping, playing and fucking well into the early hours. Since that time we have met a few couples and have some regular playmates, it has become our way of life really. We enjoy the social side as much as the sex and have found that it has made our own relationship a lot stronger and more fun.
MORE ABOUT SWINGING CLICK HERE <<<<
Swinging and Pollyamorous relationships. So you have an open mind, love people, socialising and sex, but you are married or in a relationship and one or both of you feels you are "missing out" ?? Well truth be know you are not alone, a lot of couples have desires beyond the relationship, but of course it's not "normal" to live them out, is it ?? I guess that depends on why you have chosen a monogamous relationship in the first place, what drove you to do that? Was it religion, culture or society that gave you the idea Monogamy was the only way ??? |
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